Why therapy?

As someone who has gone to therapy herself for a very long time (read: since I was 13 on and off), I can tell you I have had good therapists and bad therapists.

Even with my worst therapist, I got something out of it. I had the opportunity to discuss whatever was going on in an empathetic and neutral space. I am fortunate to have many supportive and wonderful friends and family members in my life, but NEUTRALITY is key.

When I would try out new skills (shout out to my college therapist who taught me DEAR MAN!) my loved ones would often feel annoyed with me. The first time I tried to set a boundary, it felt so forced and awkward reading from my therapy journal on the phone. I remember thinking, no way this works! And the person on the other end of the phone was less than impressed.

My therapist though was pumped that I actually tried! She could care less about the actual boundary. She was neutral enough to know that I needed to start speaking my truth. And with practice I got a lot better at setting boundaries.